Quote of the day: Choices
Choices are things that we do. “The choices we make today”, as my husband has so greatly stated, “will effect tomorrow”, so we must choose wisely. The choice becomes our decision and once it is made, we must live with it for the rest of our life.
Some of the words associated with the word, “choice” according to Swindoll, are “can’t and won’t. Christians need to be very careful which one they choose. It seems that we prefer to use can’t.
“I just can’t get along with my wife.”
“My husband and I can’t communicate.”
“I can’t discipline the kids like I should.”
“I just can’t give up the affair I’m having.”
“I can’t stop overeating.”
“I can’t find time to pray.”
“I can’t quit gossiping.”
No, any one who takes the Scripture seriously will have to confess the word really should be won’t. Why? Because we have been given the power, the ability to overcome. Literally!
One of the best books you can read on overcoming depression is a splendid work by two psychiatrists, Frank Minirth and Paul Meier. The volume is appropriately entitled Happiness is a Choice. They write: “As psychiatrists we cringe whenever [Christian] patients use the word can’t…Any good psychiatrist knows that “I can’t” and “I’ve tried” are merely lame excuses. We insist that our patients be honest with themselves and use language that expresses the reality of the situation. So we have our patients change their can’t to won’ts…If an individual changes all his can’ts to won’ts, he stops avoiding the truth, quits deceiving himself, and starts living in reality…”
“I just won’t get along with my wife.”
“My husband and I won’t communicate.”
“I won’t discipline the kids like I should.”
“I just won’t give up the affair I’m having.”
“I won’t stop overeating.”
“I won’t find time to pray.”
“I wont quit gossiping.”
Non Christians have every right and reason to use can’t, because they really can’t. They are victims, trapped and bound like slaves in a fierce and endless struggle. Without Christ and His power, they lack what it takes to changer permanently. They don’t know because they can’t. It is a fact…a valid excuse.
But people like us? Hey let’s face it, we don’t because we won’t…we disobey because we want to, not because we have to…because we choose to, not because we’re forced to. The sooner we are willing to own up realistically to our responsibility and stop playing the blame game at pity parties for ourselves, the more we’ll learn and change and the less we’ll burn and blame.”
Quote of the day: William Arthur Ward
“Blessed is he who has learned to admire but not to envy, to follow but not imitate, to praise but not flatter, and to lead but not manipulate.”
Bible verse of the day: Deuteronomy 30:19
“I call heaven and earth as witnesses today against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing; therefore choose life, that both you and your descendants may live;”
Dear Heavenly Father,
We all have a choice to make. The first choice is to accept Your free gift of life, and the second choice is to live a life that is pleasing to You. Father, I don’t know all the answers to every question that people may have, but the things that You do want us to know are found in Your Word and through praying. Father, I pray that we as Christians stop using the words can’t and won’t, as they are only excuses that aren’t helpful to Your Kingdom. Please help me to recognize the times where I want to use these words and redirect my thinking so that I can choose wisely.
In Jesus Name I pray,